Do’s:

 

1.) Be Obedient to Yah

           

(1Ti 3:11)  Wives in the same way: reverent, not false accusers, sober, trustworthy in every way.

 

2.) Be Capable

 

(Pro 12:4)  A capable wife is the crown of her husband, But one causing shame is like rottenness in his bones.

 

(Pro 31:10-31)  Who does find a capable wife? For she is worth far more than rubies.  (11)  The heart of her husband shall trust her, And he has no lack of gain.  (12)  She shall do him good, and not evil, All the days of her life.  (13)  She shall seek wool and flax, And with delight she works with her hands.  (14)  She shall be as the ships of Tarshish, She brings in her food from afar.  (15)  She also rises while it is still night, And provides food for her household, And a portion for her girls.  (16)  She shall consider a field and buy it; From her profits she shall plant a vineyard.  (17)  She shall gird herself with strength, And strengthen her arms.  (18)  She shall taste when her gain is good; Her lamp does not go out by night.  (19)  She shall stretch out her hands to the distaff, And her hand shall hold the spindle.  (20)  She shall extend her hand to the poor, And she shall reach out her hands to the needy.  (21)  She is not afraid of snow for her household, For all her household is dressed in scarlet.  (22)  She shall make tapestry for herself; She is dressed in fine linen and purple.  (23)  Her husband is known in the gates, When he sits among the elders of the land.  (24)  She shall make fine linen and sell them, And shall give girdles for the merchants.  (25)  Strength and splendour are her garments, And she rejoices in time to come.  (26)  She shall open her mouth with wisdom, And on her tongue is the Torah of kindness.  (27)  She watches over the ways of her household, And does not eat the bread of idleness.  (28)  Her children shall rise up and call her blessed; Her husband too, and he praises her:  (29)  “Many daughters have done nobly, But you have risen over them all.”  (30)  Loveliness is deceptive And prettiness is vain, A woman who fears Yah is to be praised.  (31)  Give her of the fruit of her hands, And let her works praise her in the gates.

                                                             

3.) Be Understanding

 

            (Pro 19:14)  But an understanding wife is from Yah.

 

4.) Fear Yah

 

(Pro 31:30)  Loveliness is deceptive and prettiness is vain, a woman who fears Yah is to be praised.

 

Don’ts:

 

1.) Do not give advice contrary to Yah’s Word

 

(Gen 3:17)  And to the man He said, “Because you have listened to the voice of your wife, and have eaten of the tree of which I commanded you, saying, ‘Do not eat of it’: “Cursed is the ground because of you, in toil you are to eat of it all the days of your life.

 

(Job 2:9-10)  And his wife said to him, “Do you still hold fast to your integrity? Curse Yah and die!”  (10)  But he said to her, “You speak as one of the foolish women speaks. Indeed, should we accept only good from Yah, and not accept evil?” In all this Iyoḇ did not sin with his lips.

 

(1Ki 11:8-10) And so he did for all his foreign wives, who burned incense and slaughtered to their mighty ones.  (9)  Therefore Yah was enraged with Shelomoh, because his heart had turned away from Yah the Master of Yisra’ĕl, who had appeared to him twice, (10) and had commanded him concerning this word, not to go after other mighty ones. But he did not guard what Yah had commanded.

 

(Est 5:14 7:10)  So his wife Zeresh and all his friends said to him, “Let a stake be made, fifty cubits high, and in the morning speak to the sovereign that Mordeḵai be impaled on it. And go with the sovereign to the feast, rejoicing.” And the word pleased Haman, and he had the stake made. (10)  And they impaled Haman on the stake that he had prepared for Mordeḵai, and the sovereign’s wrath abated.

 

2.) Do not be disobedient to Yah’s Word

 

(Gen 19:16, 17, 26)  And while he loitered, the men took hold of his hand, and his wife’s hand, and the hands of his two daughters, Yah having compassion on him, and they brought him out and set him outside the city. (17) And it came to be, when they had brought them outside, that he said, “Escape for your life! Do not look behind you nor stay anywhere in the plain. Escape to the mountains, lest you be consumed.” (26)  But his wife looked back from behind him, and she became a post of salt.

 

(Act 5:7-10)  And it came to be, about three hours later that his wife came in, not knowing what had taken place. (8)  And Kĕpha responded to her, “Say to me whether you sold the land for so much?” And she said, “Yes, for so much.” (9)  So Kĕpha said to her, “Why have you agreed to try the Spirit of Yah ? Look, the feet of those who have buried your husband are at the door, and they shall carry you out.” (10)  And immediately she fell down at his feet and breathed her last. And the young men came in and found her dead, and carrying her out, they buried her beside her husband.

 

(1Ki 11:3-4)  And he had seven hundred wives, princesses, and three hundred concubines. And his wives turned away his heart. (4) And it came to be, when Shelomoh was old, that his wives turned away his heart after other mighty ones.

 

3.) Do not bring shame

 

(Pro 12:5)  The thoughts of the righteous are right-ruling, The counsels of the wrong are deceit.

 

4.) Do not be contentious

 

(Pro 19:13, 19)  A foolish son is a calamity to his father, And the contentions of a wife are a continual dripping. (19)  It is better to dwell in a corner of a roof, Than in a house shared with a contentious woman.

 

5.) Do not be a fool

 

(Pro 9:13-18)  A foolish woman is loud, simple, and without knowledge. (14)  For she has seated herself at the door of her house, On a seat by the highest places of the city, (15) To call to those who pass by, Who go straight on their way: (16)  “Who is simple? Let him turn in here.” And as for him who lacks heart, she says to him, (17)   “Stolen waters are sweet, And bread eaten in secret is pleasant.” (18)  But he does not know that the dead are there, Her guests are in the depths of the grave.

 

(Pro 14:1)  Every wise woman has built her house, But the foolish breaks it down with her hands.

 

6.) Do not withhold relations

 

(1Co 7:3-5)  Let the husband render to his wife what is her due, and likewise also the wife to her husband. ( 4)  The wife does not have authority over her own body, but the husband does. And likewise the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife does. (5) Do not deprive one another except with agreement for a time, to give yourselves to fasting and prayer. And come together again so that Satan does not try you because of your lack of self-control.

 

Shalom